Happy Marvelous Monday Son,
Well, here we are at the start of another amazing week!
If you remember, last week I was about to have a conversation that included a dishonest person. As I had initially suspected, it was a challenging conversation.
As is typical, when I reviewed the facts, the dishonest person became defensive. When this happens, personal attacks are typically what follow. You see, by launching personal
attacks at the person telling the truth, a dishonest person attempts to discredit the honest person. Discrediting a person would allow the negative focus to be taken off the dishonest person and placed on the person telling the truth.
There was an additional component in my conversation. That was another person who took part in the conversation. Now this person could have been objective, but unfortunately this person was an enabler. What does that mean? In this case, the enabler sided with the dishonest person. This has happened time and time again as if the enabler does not want the truth to come to light either. Or, perhaps the enabler believes that sparing or preserving the dishonest person’s feelings is more important than bringing the truth to light.
The unfortunate consequence of this enabler’s siding with the dishonest person is that the dishonest person is encouraged to continue their dishonesty. After all, if there are no consequences of lying, why stop lying?
I have witnessed the negative affect enablers have as some seem all too anxious to fight what is right and to embrace what is wrong. As a side note, it would appear that enablers will never, and I mean never side with you. They are bound by some invisible bond, for whatever reason, to the dishonest person.
If someone continues to lie to you, they are intentionally breaking a bond that was strengthened by trust. When the trust is gone, the bond is gone and that means the relationship that you may have treasured at one time, is also gone.
When a treasured relationship is over because of dishonesty, we will mourn the loss of the relationship. That makes sense because at one point in time that person meant a great deal to us. Fortunately, there are always people out there who will treat you better than someone who is dishonest. Is there really any logical reason to continue a relationship with someone who won’t tell you the truth?
Well, that’s all for now!
Have an amazing day and know that you are in my thoughts and prayers!
Love,
Dad